BDSM-Life.com

BDSM-Life.com was started in Dec 2007 as we found that people in the lifestyle didn’t have a place to go without having to pay to set up a profile similar to myspace, hyves etc. We have a growing active & GENUINE membership base all seeking new friends and contacts in the lifestyle.

BDSM-Life was revamped to its present format in Jan 2008 and is a FREE profile website and will remain free without a catch for all those in the BDSM/Fetish lifestyle. Housed on our own high speed dedicated servers in Amsterdam, with our own dedicated seperate server for Audio/Video chat integrated into the site.

Some of our features include:

Photo Albums - Public or Private
Change your profile layout
On Site Email
Instant Messaging
Audio/video chat
Blog
Classified adverts
Events Calender
Private/Public Groups
Forum
Personal Profile URL’s
FetishGear.eu (BDSM-life’s own shop)

We will not delete you just for being yourself there. We listen to you as its you that will shape the future there.

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Just got my new best friend from my Master, The Rampant Rabbit Wave. He got it at www.fetishgear.eu. Wow this is really the best vibrator i ever had. i sure can recommend the rampant rabbit wave to any one!

I have been busy in real life and i will update my blog in the near future.

Hit a wall

I didn’t feel like writing for a few days because i hit a wall some how.

Since we stepped into this lifestyle it has been a emotional roller coaster for me. Why? well let me tell you.

I have been in a relationship for over 15 years with my former husband. After reading a story from someone which confronted me like hell with myself i began questioning everything. My former husband controlled me in many way, had to hand over receipts of shopping, wasn’t allowed to talk to friends and it even came to a point where i almost was fully isolated ( even from my family). After my divorce i took back my control and i made myself a promise that it would never happen again……

Then i met my partner, who was willing to take me on a trip into this lifestyle. Something i always wanted to experience but not in the same way as it was with my last partner.

Because of all the reading i did in the forums on a website and some things he said to me. I hit a brick wall inside myself. I had to really think if this is what i really wanted and if it was something i really and truly wanted to explorer with my partner. My partner and Master was really sweet to me and let me go for a few days. It nearly came to a point where i just wanted to delete this blog and my profile at the forum. I am glad i didn’t.

After i came back to my senses i had a good long talk with my Master and because i trust him fully with my life, i gave him me. I had to promise that if i hit a brick wall again, i will tell him so that we together can fix this.

I really, truly trust my Master and i know he will not let anything happen to me i truly don’t want. Am i just lucky???

Getting more into it.

This week i got a email at my work from my Loving partner and Master. It had a url in it to a hotel in Amsterdam called Etxea Erasmus. While i was scrolling down into the mail, i noticed he put into it the pictures of the hotel. At first i clicked it all away as i was at my work and everyone is able to look over my shoulder. But it took my attention and i wanted to see more. So i looked around to see if no one was around and i hopped back into my email to take a good look. i liked what i saw and i replied the email with a big Yeah!

After i got home from work we talked about everything. Then out of the blue he said, OK, i will take you on this journey as you showed to me that this is what you really want. After that everything went a bit fast. Suddenly we booked a weekend in the hotel and i am looking forward to that with anticipation and he wanted me to learn more about it all. So he looked up a lot of websites for me to read and sign up to and he even let me look up thing on the Internet. That is where i found it was hard to find a lot of information in one place.

On the website of VSSM i found a good explanation about what BDSM was. Also i found out that a sub has a sub - list to fill in to give to her/his Master as he/she then knows what the sub likes or dislikes. I will show you my own personal lists i have completed for my Master to get an idea of what they look like.

Also you need to have a punishment and reward list. The reward list is a bit shorter but that is mainly because a lot of the punishments can be seen as a reward as well. Here are mine:

• Punishment list
• Rewards
• Humuliation
• Pain & Stimulation
• Sexuality
• Roleplay

Also if you don’t have a partner to do this with but just someone you met, then it is very handy to make up a contract as well. I don’t need one because i trust my Master as he is my partner as well in ‘everyday’ life.

After we made up the rules and i filled up the lists, i felt myself a bit empty of it all. It was like my whole world changed into something i wanted for so long, as i now have handed control of my pain and pleasure to my Master. I am just so grateful i have found a partner who can give me the life i want to lead and who i can trust so completely as i do him.

Hello world!

Welcome to my blog where i will take you with me on my journey down in to the BDSM world.

As a beginner in the BDSM world i found out there is a lack of information for people who are interested and want to learn more about this world/lifestyle. So i thought it would be a great idea to write a blog about what i found out and how i will take this journey.

How did i start this all?

Well as a teenager i always was attracted to a darkside in this world. I found out at a young age that i wasn’t like every other teenager. The “normal” sex as most people know never turned me on and i was always looking for something extra to get me off. At a young age i started buying attributes like dildo’s and vibrators to let me come or helped myself during a intercource. It was never enough for me. I started joining chatsites to find something i was looking for, but never found it there.

After a while i found myself getting more and more fantasy’s about blindfolding or being tied to a bed. The urge to exployer this became a bigger fantasy but i never found a partner to take me on this Journey. Until i met my loving and trusting Partner. From the beginning i told him about my fantasy’s and he never said anything about it until we bassed our relationship to a degree in wich we have so much trust and loving.

He started asking me to buy some supplies like a blindfold, handcuffs and a japanese rope and a little playing thing. So i did…thro a website because i wasn’t that sure of myself to go into a shop and buy the stuff over there. After a few weeks the package arrived…. i waited till my partner was home to unpack it. We went up to the bedroom and the only thing i saw on him was a great big smile while i was having shivers down my back. I knew that a part of my fantasy was going to happen at that moment.

Slowly we unpacked everything and we started playing with the attributes….. After a while he was done playing and he wanted to try something out with the rope. As i left the bedroom to take a shower he was making up the bed and placing the rope into it’s place as he wanted to. After i came back he ordered me to take place on the bed where he put on the blindfold. I felt him putting the rope on my arms and legs and there i was… tied down to the bed, not able to move or see what he was doing. He started sliding down his hands all over my body and i got shivers all over the place. I got a really horney feeling over me but i wasn’t able to do anything about it. He played with my body and i felt his hands going down. As he played with me i felt myself getting more horney. He added attributes into his play with me and after a while i just couldn’t stop having a orgasm. I just came and came.

This was my first introduction into the bondage stuff. I can only say that i loved it and it was a dream come true.

After this first time we started talking more and more about the BSDM world. He so knows what my fantasy’s are and he so wants me to exployer them as he leads me.